On Hurling Myself Into Traffic to Get out of ABA Therapy

A car is about to hit a boy who is running into traffic to get away from applied behavior analysis therapy aba

I am an autistic teenager who has been forced into attending court-ordered applied behavior analysis therapy, or ABA. These are the experiences that led me to run into traffic to get away from it.

From what I’ve experienced with  behavior therapy, I feel like the RBT therapists who want to “help” me actually belittle me, make me feel incapable of doing what I can do, and constantly push me to do tasks as simple as flash cards, analog clock quizzes on an iPad, and easy reading comprehension way below my ability level.

The flash cards they make me do are like inference and idioms for third graders. I guess this a result of the cheesy stereotype about people with autism taking things literally. They make me take notes in a notebook on how many I got right or wrong. They even collect data on how many times I apologize.

I feel like a lab rat in a maze and the cheese at the end is when I get to go home. I don’t know what I’m doing there. I’ve asked them what were my goals, and they said that they always change until I am eighteen. This was devastating, because I thought if I played along and tried, I would “graduate” out of ABA.

Every time they tell me to work harder, I physically can’t because of all the other children in other rooms screaming their heads off. There’s also the music on the other iPads that the other kids use, too.

I can’t handle hearing young children screaming, and it’s happening all the time. Sometimes, they have very young kids in the room with me, as young as three years old. This is not just because of autism and noise sensitivity. I never see anyone comfort the kids who are screaming.

The sound is constant, like a horror movie soundtrack. They tell me that I’ll “have to get used to it” every time I ask what the children are screaming about behind the gates.

I’m always told that I am “scripting” every time something is difficult; for example, when I said I didn’t like how something made me feel, they said, “You’re just scripting.” Scripting is repeating words someone else said, so telling me that is like saying because I am autistic, I can’t even have feelings or talk about them.

I also have to make physical eye contact with them no matter what I say about how it makes me feel, and that is really hard. They want me to do it all the time, but that can make me feel uncomfortable.

They are actively collecting data on my eye contact in a room surrounded by screaming children, and they tell me that my conversation is “scripted.” What is natural about this setup? It’s all scripted, like a science experiment. And I am the one who needs to learn about irony?

Recently, they made me do a test where I had to answer a bunch of multiple choice questions, such as, “Are you able to count to three?” And then they made me do more inferences on worksheets. Again. Those “autistic people take things literally” stereotypes. I don’t struggle with that at all, and I’ve been doing it for a while.

When I ask why we are doing these things, they tell me, “It will improve your language skills.” But I think my language skills are fine.

They focus on everything I can’t do. They think I’m incapable. Do I seem incapable?

It is way too distracting, and it hurts my head to the point where I can’t talk when my mom asks me, “How did ABA go?”

But really, it’s always the same stuff: inference, idioms, clocks, retell, math, and conversations.

I feel like they are trying to make me less autistic. They describe things and focus on things that are stereotypes of autism, like conversion therapy.

I’ve told everyone who would listen to me– friends, teachers, relatives, counselors, everyone– except the people at ABA about how much I don’t want to be there. I haven’t told the ABA therapists because they will give me a speech about how it’s good for me to be there, or they will tell me that I am scripting. They never validate my feelings.

The most recent ABA drop off was the most difficult, because not only was I dealing with school, I was dealing with other stressors. Mostly, I could not bear the idea that I would have to do this until I was 18. I had a panic attack after my mom dropped me off, and I ran before entering the door to the clinic.

The therapists who always wanted to “help” me chased after me, and I felt like I had no choice but to run into the middle of moving traffic. I could not work anymore for ABA, and that was what I kept repeating to myself in my aching head as I ran into evening traffic. I tried to run back to the sidewalk, but it was too late. I was hit by a car.

The two behavior therapists who had been chasing me slowly backed away, and I watched them leave me there. That was definitely helpful. I went to the emergency room in an ambulance, feeling traumatized. After all, I got slammed on my side by a car and watched people who said they only want to “help” walk away.

I am worried that if I am forced into applied behavior analysis therapy because of court orders, I can’t survive.

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98 Responses

  1. I am sorry to hear about the difficulties you are having with the Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA) therapy you are currently studying. I also acknowledge that each person’s therapy experience can be different and it is likely that your current circumstances leave you feeling overwhelmed and overwhelmed.

    1. Seriously? Read again. The author of this article isn’t studying studying ABA torture, he has been court ordered to be abused by adults using it as their metaphorical thumbscrews.

  2. “I’m always told that I am “scripting” every time something is difficult; for example, when I said I didn’t like how something made me feel, they said, “You’re just scripting.” Scripting is repeating words someone else said, so telling me that is like saying because I am autistic, I can’t even have feelings or talk about them.”

    Technically, this is gaslighting, where someone tells you that because they don’t experience things the way you do means that your experiences aren’t real. I don’t wonder that you ran into traffic to get away from the abusers* who told you that.

    *In case of any doubt, gaslighting is an extreme form of psychological abuse that can (and has) lead to someone thinking that their experiences aren’t real and how they feel about things doesn’t matter.

  3. Ultimately, I have precious little to offer; only my heart, hands, and a caring ear. You can write to me any time. Not sure how I will know it is you. But hear this: you matter. Your feelings, desires, hopes, goals, wants and needs matter. What are they, please? Please know, that I know you were not trying to end your life, but the horror and the torture that you experience. That is why you ran. Write to me… anytime.PS… my email account (duck.com) is designed to root out trackers. And when they are in the excess then that email never makes it into my box. You can have a free duck.com account too. Then we will never have problems.

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