I realize that there’s a lot going on right now that doesn’t fit anywhere in my comfort zone. It has made me outrageously uncomfortable. Through it all, I have taken solace in the fact that I have taken chances I don’t think I would have ever taken.
I’m not a big fan of moving out of my comfort zone. I eat my candy a specific way, groups of two or three every time. I eat Chipotle as a burrito turned upside down made in a bowl with a knife and a fork. Even the concept of writing usually had me putting out one article a month.
Nowadays my comfort zone is radically uncomfortable. I write up articles almost weekly and have just started doing it by speech like I’m doing right now. I recorded myself doing video for an autism conference. I gave out a quote that was featured in the Washington Post. I did my first podcast. (Just in case you were wondering, I still eat my candy and Chipotle the same way. I’m not a monster.)
I want to clarify that I everything I have previously mentioned was outside of MY comfort zone. Sometimes I do things and they’re not big wins. Some fill me with regret. Sometimes all I can take away from some experiences is that I tried. Some days I think I did great and I failed horribly. Other times I think I did horrible and did great. A lot of times I look calm and I’m internally screaming.
So maybe someone has something that is daunting or terrifying that they must do in this vastly shifting world. From me, I offer nothing but support. I continue to stand by an old saying: Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.
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